http://mathewfreemanfitness.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/MathewFreemanFitness-Logo-lc-340x100.png 0 0 Matt Freeman http://mathewfreemanfitness.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/MathewFreemanFitness-Logo-lc-340x100.png Matt Freeman2011-03-28 15:29:382011-10-11 01:40:07Eliminate Regret from your Vocabulary!
The definition of Regret as defined online is:
1. To feel sorry, disappointed, or distressed about.
2. To remember with a feeling of loss or sorrow; mourn.
1. A sense of loss and longing for someone or something gone.
2. A feeling of disappointment or distress about something that one wishes could be different.
My thoughts are that we need to eliminate this entirely from out vocabulary and here is why. If regret means to feel sorry, disappointed or distressed about something or to remember with a feeling of loss or sorrow or feeling bad about something we wish to be different it is wasted energy.To regret is to wish that we did something different or something different happened in out past. I believe that we would never purposely feel this way. It is a horrible feeling. I know this because I have experienced regret. However, as I grow older and wiser I realize that it was a wasted feeling.
What am I trying to say? – If we had the knowledge at the time that was something was going down that we would later Regret would we not make a different decision? Here is my case. There are situations in our life where we are asked to make a decision. At the time of the decision we make the best decision we see possible. External factors such as stress, time to make the decision, personal circumstance may influence our decisions but in the end we generally make the decision we see best suited. We take what we know at that time and run with our choice. As we grow older and wiser we gain additional knowledge and find out things we did not previously know. As we gain that knowledge we choose to second guess our decisions from before causing regret in some situations. Therefore, regret, is created by additional knowledge we did not have at the time of the decision. If we had the knowledge we would not likely make the decision that would lead to a feeling of loss or mourn or disappointment. Who in their right mind wants to feel that way? No one.
I will leave you with an example in my life. I don’t get to be with my kids as much as I used too. I hate the fact that I do not get to be with them. I REGRETTED so many of my actions that I felt may have been the cause of the split. However, as I think back more and more I would have made the different decisions if I was mature and knowledgeable of the result of those decisions. The argument is that we often times know the result of a decision yet make it anyway. Like the negative affect of drugs. We know they are bad and we know that bad things will happen but we do it anyways. Same situation applies though: If we understood the future ramifications of our action (predicting the future impact) we would not proceed. I refuse to regret the actions that have led to growth and further understanding. I refuse to feel sorry or disappointed about something that I cannot change. An action that at the time that I made that decision I was confident I was doing the right thing. The one thing that I will be conscious of is not repeating the same mistake if I am placed with the same decision to be made.
The only regret should come from not learning the lesson that the action was meant to teach you.